My client James: see his transformation story

James is a blue eyed cutie with a soft laugh and sweet disposition. He works in tech, lives in Brooklyn, and has an awesome girlfriend. 

He hates shopping.

He dreads it like people dread the dentist.

 [James right before our first personal shopping session. After our initial closet edit session I told him to wear the best of what he had.]

[James right before our first personal shopping session. After our initial closet edit session I told him to wear the best of what he had.]

James associated shopping with painful back-to-school mall trips that his mother and sister forced him into. As an adult, his wardrobe was mostly items people gifted him and essentials desperately bought off-the-rack out. James wore what was convenient and available. He replaced things only when they were worn out. He knew his outfits weren't doing him justice nor were they making him feel good about himself.

He wanted getting dressed to be simpler.

He wished he could find shoes that didn't hurt his feet.

He wanted his girlfriend to look at him twice when he came dressed for a date.

He wanted people at work to notice him more.

He wished he would get complimented once in a while. 

He longed to never worry if something fit right, or matched, or if he was wearing the "right" thing. 

Mostly, he didn't want to worry about shopping or figuring fashion out, but knew he needed to dress better. 

This is his story. 

James' jeans were too baggy in both the waist and legs. He had thick thighs from years of rugby and wore slacks that hung off his hips to compensate for them. It made him appear larger than he was.

He had fantastic legs under all that extra fabric! 

 James Before: worn out basics, baggy jeans, and dirty canvas Vans.

James Before: worn out basics, baggy jeans, and dirty canvas Vans.

Later on I found out he had skepticism in the power of a personal shopper. 

I really didn’t think you could find shoes that fit me
— James

So for our first personal shopping session I did what any sassy-pants woman would do: I brought him to SoHo and blew his mind.

For the first time in his life he tried on multiple shoes that fit, were comfortable, and looked cool.

He wanted to wear them out of the store. 

Below are a few of the looks we created back at his place once we were done with the shopping. 

 See those shoes there? Those are the boots he basically lives in now. 

See those shoes there? Those are the boots he basically lives in now. 

James wanted to look rugged, masculine and approachable. He wanted to keep his look simple but nice enough to be client-facing. We found him cool t-shirts, well-fitting shirts, and replaced his tired hoodies with similar shapes in nicer quality. 

We focused on fit first (always) and colors that paired together without thinking. 

With you, changing the way I look took a few hours over a couple of days. This wouldn’t have been possible alone. 
— James
 Look at all the shoes we found him!

Look at all the shoes we found him!

Being a larger size doesn't matter (I spoke about this here) and we found everything he needed. He valued comfort and there was no reason he had to compromise that to look better.

I was shocked how much stuff you found that was in that fitting room. I didn’t have to do anything but try it on.
— James
What you do is an overwhelmingly positive experience
— James

A few days after our final at-home styling session he sent me the following text:

 [What can I say? I like emojis.]

[What can I say? I like emojis.]

 This man went from one pair of tattered Vans to four new versatile styles!

This man went from one pair of tattered Vans to four new versatile styles!

Not long after we worked together, he and his girlfriend moved in together.

Thank you for making him look so good.
— James' girlfriend

When I saw his new closet, it looked like this: 

My heart swelled and did the happiest dance. 

James was one of my favorite clients. He was personable, open and trusting. He is super smart and confident. It was awesome watching his personal style transform to match the quality of who he was.

Interested in having an experience like this?

Do you want to look and feel your best too?

Email me

We can get you there!

Who said you're too fat to dress well?

A first-time client once asked me what he should do about losing weight. He wanted to know if it was possible for him to dress well and still be large.

I wasn’t sure why he was asking me.  He seemed to like himself as is and wasn’t inclined to get in better shape. It seemed he wanted reassurance that looking great and being extra large weren't mutually exclusive.

My professional opinion was that yes, being slimmer would give him a wider range of options and it could save him money because smaller sizes are more widely available.

Still, it was entirely possible for him to dress sharp and look tailored.  

I assured him that changing his body was a decision he had to make for himself. In the meantime, we would dress him for the body he has and for the life he was living; not for a reality that has yet to materialize.

Ya see, to look good, you don’t need to be something you’re not.

Instead, you need to focus on looking the best for the body you have, and not obsessing about the one you want. 

THIS body.

THIS day.

That's your life.

Waiting for it to start until you've lost weight only sells you short. 

It's like saying you're not worthy of affection because you're fat. You're worthy of everything wonderful regardless of your size and that definitely includes nice shoes and hugs.

Next week, I’ll share the style transformation of the client who asked me if he should lose weight.

But today, easy question: what’s the one thing you wish people thought when they saw you?

How to handle the attention

One of the most common forms of resistance to dressing better is the reaction you may get from your community.

When we change ourselves, we attract attention. Whether negative or positive, it will come, and likely make you feel exposed and vulnerable.

Our close relationships are much more comfortable with everything staying the same. No one else in this world can provide you with the joy of walking your own path.

Limiting risk out of fear of disapproval or attention is common, but it is a perspective you can, and should, change.

Here’s the deal and it’s super simple: anyone who minds that you changed the way you dress only matters as much as you allow them too. That includes your mom, best friend, or office mates. If wearing "skinny jeans" (also known as ones that fit) makes people around you uncomfortable, meet that resistance with indifference and continue on your merry way

Self acceptance is a constant work in progress.

Part of pushing ourselves to where we want to go is pushing through those anxious moments when we feel awkward, judged and incomplete. Those that criticize feel threatened and insecure.

Find compassion for them, but don’t comfort them in their limitations by limiting yourself.

Instead, ask yourself if you like it?

If yes, then ignore them and wear it anyway.

If they continue on, ask yourself if you’re still happy with your new appearance.

If yes, then ignore them and wear it anyway.

If they continue on and you have found nothing justifiably wrong with it, seriously consider getting new friends.

Then wear it anyway. 

In the end, some people may never get on board or understand your new look. Earn your stripes (hell, even wear them) and it will become easier to move away from negativity. Before you know it, you’ll feel the real power of lasting change: making it easier for those around you to be themselves too.

 

 

 

 

 

The Story

This is the story of how Let's Get You came to be.

Looking for a meaningful relationship, I only dated men who had depth and interesting lives (not just flashy jobs and cool summer houses). Nice smile, passion for things? Swipe right. “work hard, play hard”? Swipe left.

Most of the men were all-around nice guys who would make wonderful boyfriends. They were poised conversationalists, established in their careers, kind and well-educated.

Still, something wasn't right.

With every date that came and went, most of them represented the other in the same way. Almost all my dates lacked thoughtfulness in how they dressed. It perplexed me why the best in heart and demeanor were missing the mark with their style.

Despite working in fashion, I did not expect or prefer men to look like they walked out of GQ, but I becoming overwhelmed how often the caliber of my date’s character was poorly represented in his personal presentation. It almost seemed like the higher quality his character, the greater missteps I would catch in his appearance.

As I investigated this phenomenon, I realized that men dressed in this way because they were overwhelmed by the available fashion advice, not necessarily unaware of the importance. Part of the curse of logic and intelligence is treating clothes solely in a utilitarian method. It wasn’t that these men didn't care or didn't care enough to find a solution.

Like a best friend or loving sister, I wanted to grab their shoulders and shake out all the hidden awesome the world couldn't see.

So instead of worrying about how many men were missing out, I help men end the style struggle and look first date ready, every day.